Helping yourself and others when you feelings lie to you.

Depression and anxiety are lies or just to put it simply the feelings that come from our diseases are not permanent but feel like it. I know that is a pretty strong statement. Most of the time it is just our brain chemical and body overreacting to things but it can make it us FEEL like our world is ending. Fighting our darkness alone becomes a struggle that can consume us.

Feelings are not permanent . .

With depression, anxiety, or any other mental health diseases things can look nothing but dark. At times, we not only have emotions that include shame, guilt, sadness, and fear (and yes that is a big one) but we condemn ourselves to suffer alone because of these feelings. We use control to cope through our thoughts and those fears become the anchor that weighs down to a point it is nothing but what we feel.

It is important for us to reach out even if WE DON”T FEEL LIKE IT. Let me say that again. We MUST REACH OUT AND ASK FOR HELP. Even if every part of us says “I can’t or won’t”. Getting help no matter if in the form of counseling or just asking a friend – it is what maybe our cure. It is just as important for friends to help those who have depression or anxiety to be understanding and give the extra effort to be patient and kind. And those that have it, to allow our friends and family in to see the darkest parts of us.

No one is an absolute expert because who knows how one person is absolutely feeling and coping unless we talk. It is an individual journey but we must allow others to walk with us if we want to heal. At times, connection –no matter what the disease, is the most important cure for the feelings that keep us in the cycle of depression and anxiety. Our feelings maybe what is keeping us isolated and within the darkness. We all know who have had that journey – how dark it can get and how you can lose your way.

Feelings are meant to be used with wisdom and discretion. Our hearts can be misdirected if we are isolated and wounded. Just like when you are in the dark and sometimes our eyes play tricks on us. We need someone to shine a light on it and say “it is not really there and maybe we need to look at it a different way”. Ephesians 5:13 Or sometimes talking about feelings puts a new perspective on it when we can move on from the hurt and pain they may have caused from another time.

Published by DeeDee Fetts, LCMHC, LPCC, NCC

Counselor, Coach, Serving Jesus and inspiring hearts @healingwingscounseling @therapyhearttalk

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